Episode 184

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English with Kirsty – episode 184

The stories we tell ourselves and others – interview with Rachel Surtees

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Today I am bringing you an interview with Rachel Surtees, a psychotherapist whom I met at a business networking meeting recently. This is how Rachel introduced herself:

” As a psychotherapist I am fascinated by people and their interactions with each other. I am deeply curious about the stories we tell ourselves in order to make sense of our world and especially how these stories then become our subconscious guides to our behaviour in future interactions. When we become aware of our unconscious stories it paves the way for us to be more choiceful in our future interactions which can be a very liberating place to be.”

Our conversation covers many topics, but we talk about what Rachel does, why she believe stories are important, how they shape our interactions, and how changing the stories we believe about ourselves or other people can lead to better relationships and better communication with others.

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